I recently had to fill out a brief background on my life. In it I finally wrote out one of the more profound ministry experiences I had with a community rugby team. It is concise, but was a great experience for me:
“I graduated from Malone in 2001 with a Bachelors of Arts Degree with a major in Youth Ministry and a major in Sports Ministry. During that time I had several significant experiences that have shaped me, but none as significant as my time spent with a community rugby team.
My approach in ministry to the team was to join, and to build relationships through time spent and earning the right to be heard. Interacting with the team kept me constantly on my toes to be very authentic in my faith, but not judgmental in my attitude. These men were not faithful church goers (in any respect), but the first thing they needed was a listening ear and trusted friend - not a judge. Since they liked to have parties for everything, I decided to throw a Christmas party for the whole team. I had my mother fix all the sides she usually did for thanksgiving, but for 30 rugby guys. I was able to get the college’s youth ministry professor to help me cook a 30 pound gooseneck roast, his speciality. And I even had some of my professors and friends come to the party just to mingle. We had a euchre tournament, lots of food, and great conversation. And then I asked everyone to convene, and I said I just wanted to take 5 minutes and tell them what Christmas meant to me and to my family. I expected them to blow me off, but they were all extremely attentive, no joking, no rolling eyes, alert attention. I explained the gift of Jesus, and how that was the center of the celebration of Christmas. And how his birth marked God’s love towards us, to restore us in relationship with him.
After the 5 minutes, we simple returned to the party. And a couple people came up and said they really appreciated me taking that time. No one came forward, but for almost all of them I knew that was the very first time they had ever really heard the gospel from someone they knew and trusted. A year later one of them came to trust Jesus through a strong relationship with a Christian friend. That whole experience etched into my lifestyle the desire to earn a voice with someone, especially in terms of the gospel, and never demanding it.”














